Think Pieces


Screaming O: Violators of Privacy and Masters of Spin 2

The “Body Safe” panel at Woodhull went wrong in so, so many ways. So much so, that I’m having to write this post instead of a general recap.  I’m literally shaking as I write this. I’m so angry, and so scared. Lawyers are getting involved. I worry that a vindictive […]


Confession: Woodhull #SFS16 – Finding Comfort

“It’s not a cold! It’s just allergies!” Oldest protested after I asked him to sequester himself to his room. After all, we were about to go on a week-long conference in a few days, Youngest was about to spend that week at a sitter, and it would be horrifically bad […]


Confession: Latuda Changed My Life 1

A little over 6 months ago, I suffered a terrifying mental breakdown and was rushed to the ER. I then spent a few days on the psych ward. Many readers have asked how I’ve been doing since. It’s been a little quiet around here, but that’s mostly due to burnout […]


Confession: I Am Angry – Politics, Privilege, and the Pulse Shooting in Orlando

Content Warning: Gun violence, homo- and transphobia, racism, and general insensitive Christian cishet nonsense. I think I nearly made my awesome, but incredibly empathetic therapist cry during our session on Friday. There is so much going on about this whole situation that hurts and infuriates me, but I can’t seem […]


Goodbye, Orgasmatronics 1

Orgasmatronics is no more. I received an e-mail last week announcing their closure to affiliates. Soon after, their newsletter followed. They’ve filed for bankruptcy and gone out of business. I was really excited when, the weekend before, they seemed to have a flash 50% off sale all of a sudden. […]


Confession: Untangling My Relationship with Porn

I have a strange history with porn. When I first became a feminist, I avoided porn. Carrie and I both did for a while, since there’s a nuanced question of consent that keeps coming up, and I think that still plays into my viewing of porn today. I’ve also experienced issues […]


Why I’m Funding the Rumble and You Should, Too

This week, Tantus launched the Indiegogo campaign for their first vibrator: The Rumble. I first saw this at Woodhull #SFS15 and was wowed by the prototype. However, as electronics are not their forte, they are having to jump through some extra hoops to bring this product to market. They’ve launched an […]


Confession: I Have a Mental Illness 2

Have you ever had one of those dreams where it feels real? You’re barely able to realize things don’t make sense before you wake up and still feel the hurt, loss, anger, or panic from the dream. Maybe you’re indignant about discovering them cheating on you in a dream. Perhaps […]


Confession: I Can’t Call Magic Mike XXL Feminist

I’m going to play film critic, and not for a porn flick. I had the opportunity to see a recent release in a theater with a group of local feminists. We wanted to see why everyone keeps calling Magic Mike XXL feminist. I’m posting a full deconstruction here.


Confession: I Am Gender Fluid 1

CW: mentions of gendered violence toward the end. Everyone gets hungry. Imagine with me for a moment: you just woke up, it’s a beautiful morning, and you are hungry. After rolling out of bed, you shuffle to the kitchen, perhaps put some coffee on, and start to make some breakfast. […]